tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post9018892386064052848..comments2024-02-23T02:03:23.020-07:00Comments on The Eco Cat Lady Speaks: Thoughts on Entitlement, Fairness and the Consumer CultureEcoCatLadyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-36264267870184541832012-09-24T00:45:41.828-06:002012-09-24T00:45:41.828-06:00I've heard similar things, although the figure...I've heard similar things, although the figure was much smaller (like around $20K) - but it was a while ago. Anyhow, I totally agree about the security thing... although I also think that security can be had for much less money if you are willing to lower your standards a bit.<br /><br />And I also have to say THANK YOU for FINALLY giving me some clue who these Kardashian people are! I guess I live under a cabbage leaf because I've never heard of either of those TV shows - but I have heard people talk endlessly about someone named Kim Kardashian and I never had a clue who they were referring to. Seriously, at first I thought it was a Star Trek character (Cardassian rather than Kardashian.) Oh well... it took me years to figure out that Paris Hilton wasn't a hotel in France!EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-90328329506719864182012-09-23T16:32:26.374-06:002012-09-23T16:32:26.374-06:00i actually read a book and in one part they mentio...i actually read a book and in one part they mentioned a survey that was conducted that weighed personal happiness against income... apparently your happiness will increase with money up to about $80,000 a year in salary, and then after the people making any more money than that weren't any happier than anyone below them. The reason for this is that the main thing money can do is give you security. Reduce stress in your life and worry. Therefore, people who dont spend their money on stupid things are usually happier. :) Also, it said that television is one of the main things that gets us to spend money because we're exposed to not just commercials, but shows like The Real Housewives and Keeping Up with the Kardashians that turns us on to a "glamorous" life. But an interesting thing it pointed out about the housewives is that theyre not even actually rich. Most of them end up with mortages they can never pay. Its all just a show for tv. This all from the book "How to be smarter, richer, and happier than your parents" by zac bissonnetteMorganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11625512436546446397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-29879950404978460972012-09-23T16:28:40.732-06:002012-09-23T16:28:40.732-06:00i actually read a book and in one part they mentio...i actually read a book and in one part they mentioned a survey that was conducted that weighed personal happiness against income... apparently your happiness will increase with money up to about $80,000 a year in salary, and then after the people making any more money than that weren't any happier than anyone below them. The reason for this is that the main thing money can do is give you security. Reduce stress in your life and worry. Therefore, people who dont spend their money on stupid things are usually happier. :) Also, it said that television is one of the main things that gets us to spend money because we're exposed to not just commercials, but shows like The Real Housewives and Keeping Up with the Kardashians that turns us on to a "glamorous" life. But an interesting thing it pointed out about the housewives is that theyre not even actually rich. Most of them end up with mortages they can never pay. Its all just a show for tv. This all from the book "How to be smarter, richer, and happier than your parents" by zac bissonnetteMorganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11625512436546446397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-43320915319094129692012-09-21T08:59:33.961-06:002012-09-21T08:59:33.961-06:00Stop staring at those applications and fill them o...Stop staring at those applications and fill them out! You'll be a whole lot less stressed and healthier if you can get a bit of help for the time being. And, if it makes you feel better, when you are back on your feet and doing well, you can "pay it back" by helping out someone less fortunate. What goes around comes around, even the good stuff!Hollynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-49620015799519717582012-09-21T08:24:03.089-06:002012-09-21T08:24:03.089-06:00"Do you think adopting a frugal/non-consumer ..."Do you think adopting a frugal/non-consumer lifesstyle is easier for someone who was poor growing up?"<br /><br />In my opinion, yes. We poor folk are already used to living without, making do with what we have and generally don't miss or care about the frills that other folks seem to. At least, I don't. I had plenty of money for awhile, but I don't anymore. And I don't miss it. I have everything I need, with a little money in the bank for emergencies. I have a low paying but low stress job and I am content. The big money job came with big stress and I was miserable. I now make half of what I did and am twice as happy!Hollynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-65603210649339151942012-09-20T13:29:48.552-06:002012-09-20T13:29:48.552-06:00Well, the issue of over-population is a whole othe...Well, the issue of over-population is a whole other discussion. I tend to agree that we're fast heading toward a situation where there are more people than the planet can actually support. But I don't think that withholding health care is a good solution. I personally think that we need to work on improving access to, and education about birth control - both within our country and beyond its borders. We also need to look at our economic systems and deal with the situations where people feel compelled to have large families for financial reasons. If it takes 5 kids to provide for you in your retirement, we've got a serious problem!<br /><br />And in terms of healthy food choices - it seems to me that our farm policies are at least partly to blame for that. When you have a system that subsidizes all of the worst foods, you're bound to end up exactly where we currently are.EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-5952733453864713132012-09-20T13:23:29.131-06:002012-09-20T13:23:29.131-06:00I think you've really nailed it with this comm...I think you've really nailed it with this comment. It's SOOOO not about what's personally "fair" or not, it's about giving people the best chance possible to become/stay productive members of society - because all of us are better off living in a society full of people who can participate and contribute.EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-32765078523214555782012-09-20T01:49:49.633-06:002012-09-20T01:49:49.633-06:00Oops! Sorry for the duplicate info there... guess ...Oops! Sorry for the duplicate info there... guess I messed up in my cutting and pasting. EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-54557199638926954782012-09-20T01:49:03.877-06:002012-09-20T01:49:03.877-06:00And don't EVEN get me started on the billions ...And don't EVEN get me started on the billions upon billions of tax dollars that are handed out to other giant corporations... or the billions upon billions of tax dollars that are never even collected because rich individuals and corporations have found ways to "game the system" and shelter their wealth from taxes! <br /><br />But in a real sense, I can't blame them for taking advantage of whatever the system gives them - that's the way it works! I may not like or agree with the system, and I think it's my responsibility to work to change the parts I disagree with, but in the meantime it's the system we've got, and we all have to live within it - and it's really not fair to you to refuse what is due to you simply because you don't like the way the system is set up.<br /><br />It's sort of like in sports when your team benefits from a referee making a really bad call. What do you do... refuse to accept the penalty? No... you take it, because you know that next time the chips could just as easily fall in the other direction.<br /><br />I guess that's all my long-winded way of saying that I really think you should take advantage of every program that you're eligible for... especially the medical stuff. Just practically speaking it will probably cost society much less to treat you now than it will to treat you later after it becomes an emergency! <br /><br />And with other programs as well... I mean think how much more you would be able to contribute to your community if you didn't have to struggle so much personally. As resourceful as you are, I can only imagine the things you could do if you could get a leg up and devote your energies to something bigger than collecting cans - and that's really the point of programs like welfare and food stamps. It seems to me that helping you feed your family and get medical care for a little while is a pretty trivial investment for society to make when you look at what we'd get in return - we'd get you able to dedicate your amazing energies back into society! <br /><br />OK... I'll stop ranting now. On a totally different topic, CatMan used to work as a therapist with former heroine addicts, and EVERY SINGLE ONE of them said that quitting heroine was a piece of cake compared to quitting smoking, so you're certainly not alone in that struggle.<br /><br />Thanks so much for sharing so much of your story and your perspective. I wish you the very best!<br /><br />xoxoxo,<br />CatEcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-32704166669737711632012-09-20T01:48:34.989-06:002012-09-20T01:48:34.989-06:00Lots to think about here. So much, in fact, that I...Lots to think about here. So much, in fact, that I had to break my response into separate comments because Blogger wouldn't let me blather on so long! :)<br /><br />First of all, I want to say that I'm really impressed with your resourcefulness and resolve to make it despite your circumstances. I also really understand the anger at the whole notion of entitlement.<br /><br />That being said, I guess I tend to take a fairly big picture pragmatic view when considering this sort of thing. I mean, I think it's easy to get caught up in what is or isn't "fair" and who does or doesn't "deserve" this or that. But on some level none of that is really the point. <br /><br />It's like we, as a society have "agreed" (I use that term loosely) that it is better for all of us if we don't have people starving on the streets, and if we provide a pathway to help people get back on their feet when life kicks them to the ground. I think Stefani made some excellent points below - "kicking people to the curb" as she put it tends to create a snowball effect of other potentially more serious consequences.<br /><br />Lots to think about here.<br /><br />First of all, I want to say that I'm really impressed with your resourcefulness and resolve to make it despite your circumstances. I also really understand the anger at the whole notion of entitlement.<br /><br />That being said, I guess I tend to take a fairly big picture pragmatic view when considering this sort of thing. I mean, I think it's easy to get caught up in what is or isn't "fair" and who does or doesn't "deserve" this or that. But on some level none of that is really the point. <br /><br />It's like we, as a society have "agreed" (I use that term loosely) that it is better for all of us if we don't have people starving on the streets, and if we provide a pathway to help people get back on their feet when life kicks them to the ground. I think Stefani made some excellent points below - "kicking people to the curb" as she put it tends to create a snowball effect of other potentially more serious consequences.<br /><br />I also think that we in this society have a somewhat unrealistic picture of those who have "made it on their own." I mean, it's easy to paint people who accept food stamps or welfare as societal leeches, but in a very real sense we all "leech" off of each other every single day - that's just part of the give and take of living within a society.<br /><br />For example. I don't have kids, but I still have to pay property taxes, most of which goes towards paying for public schools, which is a service that I will obviously never get to use. I suppose I could look at it as if my neighbors' kids were somehow leeching off of me, but I don't see it that way. In my mind, we're not paying to educate our own kids per se, we're paying to live in an educated society.<br /><br />Similarly, look at all the other ways that people accept government handouts without ever even realizing it. CatMan did a calculation a few years ago and figured that if you include all of the government subsidies, tax breaks, and support systems (pipelines etc.) the actual cost of a gallon of gasoline is something like $18.50. We, of course, pay nothing remotely like that because our government picks up a huge chunk of the tab. <br /><br />But because we never see that subsidy we don't think of gasoline as the government subsidized product that it really is. Sooo... do you think that folks driving around in gas guzzling Hummer limos feel guilty about accepting $15/gallon in gasoline "welfare?" I don't think so!<br /><br />EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-69282680680219397442012-09-20T01:06:27.538-06:002012-09-20T01:06:27.538-06:00I think you're spot on with this one.I think you're spot on with this one.EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-61205709805451732652012-09-20T01:05:56.287-06:002012-09-20T01:05:56.287-06:00Now that is a very interesting question. I can abs...Now that is a very interesting question. I can absolutely see the dichotomy there. I didn't grow up poor, but we certainly had MUCH less money than the people around us. As a kid, all I wanted was to have the things that all my friends did - and I even chose my college at least in part because there were a lot of rich people there and I figured I'd learn the "tricks of the trade" so to speak. Of course, what I ended up learning was that rich and happy quite often did not go hand in hand.<br /><br />But for me, at least, choosing to live with less feels totally different than having it foisted upon me. I always feel like I'm on a mission to "outsmart the system" - it's almost a game sometimes. I'm not totally sure that this is true, but I always figure that the worst thing that could possibly happen is that I'd have to go get a real job - which is where most people are already, so really, there's nothing to lose! EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-90595866870521306492012-09-20T00:59:43.085-06:002012-09-20T00:59:43.085-06:00I hear you... it is so hard not to judge. But I th...I hear you... it is so hard not to judge. But I think Stefani's comments below really hit the nail on the head. Drugs and alcohol can be both the cause and the result of poverty.<br /><br />You know, I saw a TV show once (Extreme Makeover Weight loss Edition - it's terrible I know, I but even I succumb to reality television now and then.) Anyhow, the woman with the weight problem was really struggling with issues surrounding her father, who had pretty much abandoned her as a child and was fairly absorbed in a drug and alcohol problem. So the woman was talking about how angry she was at her father that he always put the drugs and alcohol before her, and the therapist said something that I thought was very interesting.<br /><br />She said in essence that that the woman needed to realize that in a very real sense her father had an emotional disability. That he was incapable of dealing with his emotions and thus had turned to drugs and alcohol. And just as if she had a parent who was confined to a wheelchair she wouldn't expect them to go on a hike with her, she couldn't reasonably expect to get emotional support from a man who really didn't have it to give.<br /><br />I thought it was a very practical and non-judgmental way to look at it. I mean, on some level we just see it as irresponsible behavior, but I think that there are always deeper emotional issues at the root of it, and so I'm trying really hard to be compassionate rather than judgmental - I don't always succeed, but I am trying! :-)EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-11478234858973617972012-09-19T21:21:40.623-06:002012-09-19T21:21:40.623-06:00Sorry I seem to be rambling with no true direction...Sorry I seem to be rambling with no true direction, forgive me, I must be tired. <br /><br />I just don't think we are owed anything , yet no clue what the solution is to a rapidly growing problem.Poor to Richhttp://poortorichadayatatime.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-6288001207440573442012-09-19T20:51:53.506-06:002012-09-19T20:51:53.506-06:00My husband did not have medical when he had his de...My husband did not have medical when he had his decent job, and yeah he was pretty much kicked to the curb by being told go go right back to work not even 8 hours after having a heart attack. He was getting ready to have a third when I forced the issue of him leaving. <br /><br />But look, nobody thinks the same, spends the same, lives the same for we are not a collective mind and this is going to make any solution a difficult one if not an impossible one.<br /><br />But I do believe that if we are going to use modern medicines to extend life, and have a defective system in place that encourages over eating, and eating bad food choices that many still go unaware of which leads to health problems to the uninsured, there is a definate need for reviewing and rebuilding a new structure. In one sense we add to the population problems, and yet in the other direction our foods, water and air are causing us to be filled with more diseases at younger ages....there may be something to be said for that statement perhaps?<br /><br />I do believe in free choices though and in the very abundance of our country and if people can re-learn all the crap that has been spoon fed to them to believe in and start thinking for themselves and out of the box, that things could lead to a much brighter future. <br /><br />I tell people we are where we are in large due the the many choices we have made on our path, and yet while we have less money, for the most part we are much happier because our choices reflect our values and principles we live by.<br /><br />I am not saying to not have compassion for those in need and the less fortuante, but I also know, how you look at things makes a big difference in whether you feel lacking or see a life full of love, joy and daily gratitude. Yet I also plan on improving our situation so I can help and make a difference in the lives of those struggling with poverty......after all I have struggled with it most my life and it is a matter dear to my heart.<br /><br />I will also admit to making my own fair share of stupid mistakes, after all I learned frugality from my mother and grandmother, but I was never taught money management and had to learn as I went and made mistakes.Poor to Rich a Day at a Timehttp://poortorichadayatatime.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-88086028980617530962012-09-19T18:08:57.538-06:002012-09-19T18:08:57.538-06:00PS. I work in the IT field. I love and adore my ...PS. I work in the IT field. I love and adore my employees from China. They are very hard workers, they are not cultural inclined to brag or overestimate their own skills, they are fabulous employees. But I do take mental note, with some concern, that we can scarcely find an educated American worker to do the jobs we hire them for. Those individuals are very very very few and far between. Stefanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07239847432599114367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-89999419321463410922012-09-19T18:06:34.578-06:002012-09-19T18:06:34.578-06:00Poor to rich:
The problem I see with assailing p...Poor to rich: <br /><br />The problem I see with assailing people feeling "entitled" to basic necessities like food, housing, health care and -- what's next? education? -- is that there is no rational measure to judge the reasonableness of this sense of entitlement unless you agree that it is reasonable to assume that we as a civil society should want our members to have these things. Increasingly, these necessities are out of reach for a larger and larger percentage of the population. Take someone in your husbands situation who ends up being unable to keep his job with health benefits after a medical crisis, who then cannot find or perform at another position where he will be able to have medical. What do we do with people in that situation? Kick them to the curb? <br /><br />Take someone who was too dumb to realize that the real estate market wouldn't keep going up, who bought the line of bullshit sold to them by the predatory lender, who found thsmselves unable to make ballooning payments, who lost their home and their credit right along with it, who can't get an apartment even now due to this bad credit and is essentially homeless. With kids. What do we do? Kick them to the curb? <br /><br />Food? What about the social costs of a family that cannot afford to eat healthy food? Who instead can only afford the various permutations of corn syrup and MSG at 99 cents a bag/box. Who end up obese and with diabetes, kids with behavioral problems due to chemicals, making education next to impossible . . . what do we do? kick them to the curb? <br /><br />And once we've kicked this substantial slice of society to the curb, what then? Without an educated workforce to do our jobs, do we simply import educated workers from China where they value educating the talented, or do we instead simply send our jobs overseas? <br /><br />When we are stepping over sick homeless people and having public health crisis one after another due to epidemics in the street, what do we do? How do we absorb the impact on our economy and quality of life? <br /><br />When there are so many aging, sick people and not adequate resources to care for them and not enough educated people to work and generate a tax base to care for them much less directly provide care, what then? <br /><br />It's all connected . . . I don't believe we can be a prosperous society by turning poverty into a moral shortcoming, but believe it's important to analyze and address the causes of poverty. <br /><br />Maybe we can find some answers in Scandinavia. Their societies seem to be doing very well compared to the rest of the world . . . <br /><br />Stefanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07239847432599114367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-79937918278306491022012-09-19T16:40:36.044-06:002012-09-19T16:40:36.044-06:00I think the big issue here is that community has b...I think the big issue here is that community has been lost, nobody knows their neighbors or wants to know them. I am not one that buys into the economy will collaspe without high consumption, but I do believe communities need to be re-built as they were intended in the old days. They should support and help one another, aide one another, care for one another building relationships that will endure and stenghten all for the betterment of the community itself.Poor to Rich a Day at a Timehttp://poortorichadayatatime.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-33451380435080137552012-09-19T16:35:12.651-06:002012-09-19T16:35:12.651-06:00Oh man, I have so much to say here but don't k...Oh man, I have so much to say here but don't know where to start. For those here who do not know me, I raise my family of 5 on $1200 a month, last years taxes show an annual income of less than $14,000 ( it was just under) Is that considered "Poor" LOL? Hubby left (by my force) a decent paying job that left him with 2 heart attacks by age 38, the same year the economy fell flat. NOw the only thing we have is his one minimum wage job that he was lucky enough to find when we moved to a small rural town.<br /><br />Anyways I do not feel entitled to anything but making what I make out of my own life by the sweat of my own blood. We do not get food stamps or medical or anything however the last several months as things have gotten worse and worse it seems financially oh do I stare at those applications online for them wondering it it is time to turn for help.<br /><br />Americans sense of feelings of "entitlement" actually pisses me off and while I know I do not have the right to judge, I do find myself "Judging" the choices of the poor or those who make lots of money screaming they can't make it because they blow a hole in their pocket. I actually lost a friend of 30 years when I told her I did not want to hear her whining anymore about evictions or shut off notices while they made $60,000 a year and borrowed another $30,000 a year from her in-laws to live a high life all the while I made it as a single mom on $9,000 at the time.<br /><br />When our car breaks down, we bike the 5 miles to town DAILY , hubby for work and me to haul 80 lbs of groceries back on a bike without a trailer on it, so all on back packs on the handles........with a bad back and health issues...NOT EASY. Then the same day bike another 15 miles looking for returnable cans, or foraging for apple trees or whatever it takes! While my 2 adult children lay around playing face book games all day waiting for the world to hand everything to them without an ounce of effort. I shake my head wondering how they got that way because they actually feel ENTILED to a lazy life that everything is handed to them , no effort given, no ambition, complaining how bored they may be........this PISSES ME OFF!<br /><br />Smoking? yeah I dont drink but 2 or 3 glasses of wine maybe twice a year ( um superbowl sunday do I get slack for that? LOL) But YES I SMOKE. When my fuel tank reaches zero and I still have no money and the panic attacks hit I smoke up a storm. While my cupboards start getting bare and I honestly don't know where I can squeeze more money out for food, I smoke. While my sons Dad buys gifts to send home to me that I then in return have to turn around an pay things I never would of done such as WI-Fi/high speed internet for a laptop for a lap top or xbox live memberships, it pisses me off and I smoke because of added bills I can't afford. I smoke so I don't have a heart attack from abnormal levels of stress at times. While not making excuses it IS STUPID to smoke but also a habit after 30 years of doing I am finding VERY difficult to break!) It is my ONLY stress relieving device though.<br /><br />Entitled? I think we as a society are spoiled little brats for the most part and most people now adays would not know an honest days work if it hit them in the face. <br /><br />Medical? I dont think we are entiteled to that either I stare at the application because hubby is begging me as I may be facing a health issue that may very well take my life in a few years. But honestly modern medicine only has succeeding in over populating us as we now live longer, and maybe, just maybe we should accept when it is our time to go as nature intended. ( Not something I usually discuss as I believe in positive thought and our bodies are designed to heal themselves when right healthy choices are made to allow that healing)<br /><br />I think money and materialism has totally screwed up priorities and values.......when children only average 15 minutes a day of quality time with a parten there is something WRONG with that picture. <br /><br />Poor to Rich a Day at a Timehttp://poortorichadayatatime.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-36175070816312319122012-09-19T15:38:35.339-06:002012-09-19T15:38:35.339-06:00Re: Alcohol (and drug) use by people with little ...Re: Alcohol (and drug) use by people with little or no money. <br /><br />I believe, and have seen firsthand, that very often alcohol abuse by the poor is a coping mechanism. Essentially self-medicating for psychological problems which have a relatioship to the poverty status (either contributed to the circumstances leading to poverty, or resulted from those circumstances). I saw my mom descend into depression and drinking after 6 months of trying and failing to get a job after being fired. I am certain there was a relationship. <br /><br />So, when people ignore other needs and buy beer and cigarettes or other intoxicants, I'm not sure they are acting out of free choice. It's maddening to watch, because certainly it doesn't improve their situation, but I think often that is a reason. <br /><br />Stefanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07239847432599114367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-46514596911380807562012-09-19T15:31:06.329-06:002012-09-19T15:31:06.329-06:00Question for this readership:
Do you think adopt...Question for this readership: <br /><br />Do you think adopting a frugal/non-consumer lifesstyle is easier for someone who was poor growing up? <br /><br />I go back and forth on this when contemplating seeking a less stressful job that will give me more flexibility. Some days, I think I'm not afraid of poverty because me and poverty are old acquaintences, and some of the happiest times in my life have also been some of the poorest times in my life. <br /><br />Other times, I think I am abnormally attached to financial security because of having been impoverished. (While simultaneously lacking really good financial habits as a result of having to learn these on my own the hard way. My mom still thinks loans = free money, bills don't need to be paid, and all money in the hand should be spent. "Hey, tomorrow's the end of the month and I still have $20! Let's party!") This is poverty psychology.)<br /><br />I think it might be possible for both of these seemingly conflicting states of mind to coexist ("I'm not afraid of poverty because I know it" and "I never want to be poor again because I know it"). <br /><br />Maybe the positive side of it is, I am very aware that I am the exact same person I was when I had to count pennies at the end of the month for lousy cheap Meow Mix cat food and a bagel, and that I don't believe poor people are less valuable. In that way, I'm not afraid of poverty from the perspective of self worth. I am however, afraid of not having housing, health care, veterinary bill money -- essentials. And perhaps shamefully, just slightly still deterred by the social stigma associated with poverty, even deliberate poverty. Because that's out in full effect as discussed here . . . <br /><br />Just sign me -- <br /><br />Underneath the veneer of respectability, still a social parasite <br /><br />;) Stefanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07239847432599114367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-10521674753569294932012-09-19T10:17:58.196-06:002012-09-19T10:17:58.196-06:00It is so hard to not judge how others spend their ...It is so hard to not judge how others spend their money, especially when you know they are on public assistance. My former neighbors, for example, had two young children and two very large dogs (I think they had two cats, too). They both worked, but his hours were cut.<br /><br />Their utilities were shut off when it was legal to do so and they used camping lanterns and candles for light. A tire went flat on one of their cars and they drove it with the rubber donut spare. And yet they somehow had money for beer and cigarettes and pizza delivery.<br /><br />They were eventually evicted and I know at least one of the dogs was given away. I couldn't help but wonder if they had better money management skills or were willing to make sacrifices (give up the beer and cigarettes, find good homes for the pets), would they and their children have been able to keep the utilities on, have enough money for rent and be able to stay in their home?<br /><br />It is interesting to hear or read what others feel are necessities and what are luxuries. I grew up poor so my list of what is a necessity and what is a luxury is usually very different from many others I have read or heard.<br /><br />Hollynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-21819570291263027752012-09-19T00:58:10.088-06:002012-09-19T00:58:10.088-06:00Sigh. I'm wondering what it would be like to l...Sigh. I'm wondering what it would be like to live in a country that valued its children above its millionaires.EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-51139361509560824912012-09-19T00:54:00.825-06:002012-09-19T00:54:00.825-06:00Wow... such an EXCELLENT comment. Ultimately, soci...Wow... such an EXCELLENT comment. Ultimately, social programs make everything SOOOO much better for everybody - even those who never need them.<br /><br />The other part that gets to me about this whole "freeloader" argument is that nobody ever points out that the amount spent on all of these social programs put together pales in comparison to the hundreds of billions of dollars of government subsidies that we happily hand over to multi-billion dollar corporations every day! Apparently hungry children, veterans and the poor are not "deserving" of our charity, but Exxon Mobile and the Koch brothers are.EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685979597473858413.post-58382743653683967212012-09-18T20:48:52.403-06:002012-09-18T20:48:52.403-06:00I'm tempted to utter some hackneyed phrase lik...I'm tempted to utter some hackneyed phrase like "we know the price of everything and the value of nothing . . . ." There is so much demonization of the poor these days. My fb wall is slammed with people wanting me to jump on a bandwagon demanding drug testing of welfare recipients, and many of these posts are full of invective and denigrating characteristics of welfare recipients. I'd be tempted to say that these people are ignorant, and have never known hard times, but the irony is when I comment on their posts, as often as not I found out that they themselves availed themselves of unemployment, disability, welfare or some other government program, or are currently entirely reliant on social security and medicare. Yet somehow, everyone ELSE who has received assistance from a government program is a lazy grifter sucking on the government teat and destroying society, while THEY are the virtuous exception of a person who REALLY DESERVED the help. Having spent a third of my childhood in a household that relied on unemployment/government aid and food stamps and medicaid, I take their comments a bit personally. What do we DESERVE? What does anyone DESERVE? Why do we even engage in the project of human civilization? To escape the otherwise "short, nasty and brutish" fate we would face but for the social contract. Either we deserve nothing because we are merely living entities here to engage in a survival of the fittest competition until we die, or we deserve the mutual respect that is implied by the social contract, which relies on us all realizing we share a common fate. Homelessness-->Despair-->Crime-->Illness-->Public Health and Safety collapse-->threat to civilization. The fact that most people who demonize the poor have such short sightedness that they can't think this many steps ahead about the consequences of their line of thinking, always leaves me scratching my head. Stefanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07239847432599114367noreply@blogger.com